How our 21-month engagement is turning into a 33-month engagement.
Lance and I planned for 2020 to be a big year for us. Heck, we had been organizing it for nearly 20 months to ensure it would be. As good husbands to be, we made sure everything was coordinated and orchestrated well in advance. Our wedding wasn’t going to just plan itself, especially since we were bending all traditions to make it completely our own. Deposits were paid 18 months before we would say, “I do.” We had selected the perfect venue for the ceremony, reception, and even the guest accommodation- all in one huge private villa outside of Barcelona (all of these photos are from that specific place). We kept our guest list small, only about 40 friends and family, so we could pull off the intimate atmosphere we dreamed of. All we had left to do was count down the days till our three day wedding celebration in the Spanish countryside.
We had no way of preparing for the worst wedding crasher ever….. COVID-19.
Like every one else around the globe, we had no idea how this pandemic was going to affect us. For weeks Lance and I talked about our wedding from sun up to sun down, but not in the typical upcoming wedding excitement sort of way. Instead, we were hashing out all the “what ifs.” What if there is a travel ban? Will our guests be safe, to travel? How much money will we lose if we cancel? How long can we wait to make a decision? It wasn’t long before we started getting texts from close friends, asking how we were holding up and what we were thinking for Spain. At the time we didn’t have much to say, we were coping as best we could. The terrible wedding crasher aside, Lance and I remained extremely thankful for our health, our job stability, our supportive friends and family, and most importantly each other. But, if you want to test a relationship, dump a global pandemic on top of the initial stress of planning a wedding. Regardless we remained strong together and held tight to our sense of optimism.
After talking out every possible scenario, we made our very difficult decision exactly two months before our wedding date. A wedding in June, let alone in Spain of all places was simply not an option. By that time we had already contacted every component to reschedule; catering, musician, the villa itself, photographer, and our travel agent for our honeymoon. We needed to preserve every bit of our wedding dreams by shifting everything out a year. Thankfully, our optimism paid off. Everyone we contacted about moving our reservation and deposits was kind and beyond accommodating. Somehow we managed to take our 20 months of organizing and shift it entirely to June 2021. Finally we were relieved enough to provide answers to our friends and families, most of which already booked flights and created European travel plans. All of their love and support has made this difficult process much easier. Now we are starting fresh and have a new optimism for our wedding.
Our love for each other doesn’t mind waiting another 12 months. In fact, we are thrilled by the opportunity to postpone. Instead of abandoning our original plans, now we are focused on the silver lining among the chaos. Now we’ll have time to extend our time exploring Spain with friends and family before the wedding. We’re even planning on lengthening our honeymoon in Kenya. We are fully embodying the idea that good things come to those who wait!
Instead of fully recreating our original vision for our wedding,
we are taking this extra time to far exceed our wildest dreams!